25 signs that you are in a toxic friendship

You can have a big group of acquaintances but very few real friends. True friends are going to stick with you no matter what but the real problem is finding that true and real friend. Choose friends wisely and do not compare yourself with others.

You can meet toxic people in all of your life - in romantic relationships, at work and in friendships. Toxic friends are hypocritical and are seriously not worth your time. 

Here are the 25 signs which clearly helps you identify your toxic friends and should get out of that friendship as soon as you can.  

1. There's a lot of drama 

Be it a small or a big matter , there always is a whole lot of drama. They cannot survive a day without drama. This highlights the toxicity in the friendship. 

2. Everything is about them 

A toxic friend will never really listen to you, they will just be waiting for their turn to talk. They always want to do their thing and would not want to listen to anybody else. 

 3. They compete with you 

Toxic friends are always jealous of your success. They would always want to compete with you in everything. They would not want to see you succeeding in anything. 

 4. You don't think they have good intentions 

Even the best of friends are never perfect. But, they do have good intentions. They always wish good for us. But it's different in case of toxic friendship. You always have a bad feeling about their intentions and they somehow prove it right sometimes. 

 5. They always put you down 

More often they make fun of you. A little or good natured teasing is not a toxic friendship. But continuously demeaning you or making unhealthy fun of you is a very good sign of a toxic friendship. 

6. Apologize without sincerity

 

If your friend apologizes to you and if you don't feel that they genuinely mean it, then please do come out of such toxic friendship. You are not meant to be there. 

 7. Leave you unsettled 

Spending time with a friend or hanging out with them should actually bring happiness to you. But instead of it, if you feel uneasy with them or if they upset you each and every time you meet up. It's clearly a trait of toxicity. There's always negative vibes coming out of them. 

 8. You dread checking your phone 

Smartphones have made it easier to be in contact nowadays. In such time, if that particular person calls you or texts you, you do not want to check your phone. You get bored to talk to them. You feel like you need to keep your phone on " Do not disturb" mode. That's when you know you are in a toxic friendship. 

 9. You don't enjoy spending time with them 

You regret every time hanging out with your toxic friends. You don't feel happy about going out with them or spending time with them. You always look for ways to cancel plans with them. 

10. You don't know why you are friends with them 

 There was a time when you were inseparable but now you always wonder why are you even friends with them when you don't even like them. You always feel bad around them, and don't enjoy their company. 

 11. You feel used 

One of the greatest sign of a toxic friendship is "manipulation". You always feel that your friends use you for their work in which you are not even interested. They always make you pay the bills or make you split the bills when you haven't even eaten anything. 

12. You make excuses for them 

They always tend to put you in uncomfortable situations and you will have to apologize on their behalf. Because of them you have to make excuses in your other relationships which is not quite acceptable. 

13. You are embarrassed by their behaviour towards others 

If they are rude to your other friends or to someone you are close with, they are obviously your toxic friends. Get away from them. 

14. Their advice is not dependable 

You can never depend on their advice. They are very bad at giving advices. You instantly regret asking them for an advice. This could mean that the friend is toxic. 

 15. You don't like yourself when you are with them

 

A toxic friend always have the ability of spreading the toxicity. You tend to bring out the bad side of you when you are with them, like gossiping too much or drinking and smoking too much or being passive aggressive. 

16. You don't feel supported

 

Your toxic friends always don't appreciate your hardwork and make fun of whatever you are doing. They don't support you in any of your good deeds 

 17. You feel lonely and isolated 

Spending time with friends should increase your sense of connection and should make you forget your loneliness. But instead if you feel more lonely and isolated you certainly are in the wrong friend circle. 

18. They always try to change you 

A friend should accept you the way you are. If they try to change you or make you do things you don't like to do, then you should rethink about your friendship with them. They are actually not meant to be your friend. 

19. They always lie to get sympathy 

Toxic people always have a sad backstory. They have tales behind every wrong deed they do and they don't even feel bad about their wrong doing. They tell stories that make no sense to gain sympathy. 

20. They are hypocritical 

Toxic friends don't feel bad for letting you down each and every time. But because of their dramatic and irrational nature, you always let them go. They might sometimes owe you money and pretend that they don't owe. You always let them go. 

 21. Your mother doesn't like them 

Mom knows the best. Your mom can always identify your toxic friends before you do. Not only your mother, if any person close to your heart doesn't like your friendship then you might probably be in a toxic friendship. 

22. They don't share details of their life with you

 

Toxic friends usually do not want to share their details with you but would want to know everything about you. A good friend always wants to know details about you hear feedback and get advices. 

 23. They only care about themselves

 

Whenever they have a problem, they expect your support. But when you are in need , they don't even bother to ask about your problem and pretend that everything is normal. They even deny helping you in time of need 

24. They cross your boundaries

 

Toxic people do incredibly inappropriate things that anger a lot of people. They won't listen to you when you say that they are doing something which makes you uncomfortable 

 25. They are very needy 

Toxic friends are so self obsessed that they want everything to be about them. They want all the time and attention. They want to do their things even if you say you don't want to do. They don't value your thoughts 

So these are the signs which are obvious in a toxic friendship. 

 What to do next??? There are two ways to go after you have identified your toxic friends 

1. Talk to them, give them a second chance, let them improve themselves 

2. End the friendship. 

 Comment below what you think of the above ways :)